Yeah, im just saying I never understood what they MEANT by it - it sounded like they were implying more than a biological connection. Like would they say that if they knew you were adopted and the person was only related to you by birth? I think I finally figured it out for myself. I dont think they would. I think they're saying, that person took care of you, gave you cookies - dont you remember? No, I dont remember because it never happened. I do remember what did happen. Now I need to be allowed to move on.