I'm so sorry you were 'outted' in that manner...and using an email was cowardly not caring or brave, in my opinion. I know you must be terribly upset and probably feel betrayed as well. Is there a way to still have 'the talk' with your mother as you'd planned, on the day you'd planned? Given time to gather your thoughts again and her time to emerge from the feeling of shock she no doubt experianced, both at the revelation and how it was delivered? ((((hugs))))