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Originally Posted by happiedasiy
Good that you say the dreams were pleasant but sad because it was not that way in real life.
Love comes naturally. Loyalty and respect comes by the parents actions.
When it is demanded by preaching, controlling, and fear love becomes conditional.
Can you forgive your father now or do you still feel some resentment?
You seem to have come to some resolution by trying to understand your fathers way of thinking. Hugs for you tonight.
Happiedasiy
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I do forgive him, because I know he had a mental illness. He wanted to be a good father, but he was deluded as to what that meant.
I will never forget that one time when I was 13 years old. All of a sudden in the middle of one of his tirades, he had a moment of clarity. He stopped the lecturing and pontificating, pulled me onto his lap, and held me there for quite a while. He whispered into my ear that he was sorry. Because of that one moment, I find it very easy to forgive him. If it hadn't happened, I think I would have had a much harder time forgiving him.
I suppose in my dreams, I'm wishing that he could have always been the dad he was at that point.