see Pat, I actually think they do tell her to act out that she does not have to mind me as when i ask her why she has to stop and think what should I say, not just because she gets to do it a "meme's house.. this is what she has said in the past.. so I'm not so sure they are not telling her not to act up. I know sometimes her father does get upset at her when he is here, bt in some ways I think he is putting on an act for me. I do not belive he really cares how bad she acts up here as if I am in a state of "deperssion" all the time I will need them to watch her more often.. Which I hve not been doing..

i dont' know anymore