You could be right about your wife's depression bringing you down. Having a depressed person in the family makes it hard on everyone. Because it leaves you feeling helpless to do anything to cheer them up. I'm glad to see you are seeking out a therapist and even if you choose a man therapist you won't be the first one they've seen cry. Glad to see you are posting in the forums it's a good outlet for your feelings.
Best wishes,
Gayle