Ah, this is one of my pet peeves...no doubt, from when I was little when my mother blamed me for stuff my little sisters did. Haven't found a satisfactory resolution, either. I do know that what others think of me is more a product of themselves, not the real me, so it's easier to accept now. I constantly tell myself that what others think of me is none of my business. What they say about me says more about themselves than me. That helps. But you have to let yourself believe it.