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Aug 21, 2013, 10:22 PM
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Member Since: Dec 2012
Location: California
Posts: 2,248
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Originally Posted by tealBumblebee
...she is...she really is. She always says she believes that God had me find her for a reason; even before she said that I already felt the same way. I wish there was a way for me to convey how awesome she is to her without it feeling inappropriate. Though I did write her a note telling her something similar, but its for next session.
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I read a book by (or maybe about) Wallis Simpson (the woman behind the abdication of the throne by Prince Edward, Duke of Windsor, formerly King Edward VIII of the United Kingdom and the Dominions). She wasn't a remarkably attractive woman, but did very well with men. It said that Wallis believed that oftentimes the best compliments are ones you receive second-hand. Like when you tell a friend good the hostess is, and then the friend tells the hostess. The only problem with this strategy is the middle person has to pass on the compliment, and it probably can't be forced, but my experience is that it's true. It's one thing for someone to tell me something, that I sometimes struggle with accepting, or wonder why they are telling me that. But if they tell someone else about me, it feels more like the speaker really meant the compliment.
So.... maybe if you just printed out what you wrote about her and let her read it. I think I would have been very warmed to read what you said about her that I responded to. It's different from telling her the same thing, and very powerful. I've done it with my T.
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