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Originally Posted by planejane13
My alcoholic boyfriend likes to give lectures after he drinks. He doesnt let me speak and if I do, I have to apologize and tell him I understand or else he will flip out and start yelling and possibly get physically violent.
. I bring up job options and every single one, he doesnt like because there are men working where I would want to apply.
I dont have any friends because Im not allowed them.
He has erupted in front of my family so they barely talk to me because
I get help from social services and have no where to go.
Any advice? I may have posted in this forum with similar problems but I just have no one to talk to. I feel like Ive worn out my welcome with everyone. I dont want to ever go back to him but I dont know where to start to get on my feet. Im scared and lonely and tired of walking on eggshells.
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I'm sure you haven't worn out your welcome here. If there were lack of responses, in the past, here, probably just timing of posts, etc.
I feel that his erupting in front of your family, had the potential to have left them walking on eggshells, themselves. One thing, I learned, about my own family and the disconnect feeling I, myself, once had with my now exh, is that they were scared for my own safety, if they were to contact me.
You mention, possible, physical abuse, has he been physical?
You mention, he's a 'boyfriend.'
Boyfriends are so much easier to leave than husbands, in a legal sense.
Is there anyone, friend, family, loved one that can take you in, temporarily, until you get back on your feet? Are you on and HUD waiting lists for housing? (ask because you mention social services. Even when there is a need, there is still a wait. Most frustrating.)
So, he doesn't like any of your job prospects, because there a men working there? Hmphhh...how many times, have I ever heard such drives to prevent me from becoming independent, financially myself. Gosh, I'd be rich, if I had a penny for all those moments. That is clearly about the cycle of abuse and forcing your dependence on him, as a means of control and perpetuates abuse.
Sometimes, the asap plan, isn't always practical. How can you start taking the step and measures in the here and now, to ensure that you can have that asap moment?