Thread: Dealing with wrongly placed blame !
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Old Aug 22, 2013, 01:52 AM
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No need to elaborately explain your side. Sometimes, the more one explains, the more it sounds like accepting blame.

I don't appreciate, the accusation. And then, walk away from the conversation.

Reminds me, of how I'd try to soothe my ex husbands fears. It's not my job, to convince others of their erroneous beliefs. Can lead a horse to water, can't make them drink.

Simplify the response. Don't accept the blame.

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Originally Posted by Max Ra View Post
Hi ! I am not on any meds and I don't see any therapists etc. I am trying to get answers to resolve some issues that come up once in a while, as I believe I can handle them more effectively than I currently do. One of them is to deal with blame or accusations wrongly placed on me, when that happens. I get a strong feeling in those instances that convincing the other person by elaborately explaining to them, will get the blame off me. However this does not seem to be working out that well ! What do you guys here suggest ? What measures do you think can be taken in such a situation so that it may be handled more effectively ?
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