HDtherobot:

I know how you feel. It doesn't mean that you're unloveable. I keep having relationships end where it turns out that... I'm just not worth the work or effort due to circumstances. Annoyingly, they always start the relationship and set the pace!

The point of loving ourselves is simple though... SOMEONE has to love us and it may as well be us for now, right? Sometimes I love myself because I remember that if no one else does... it just means that I don't know the right people. (of course, there are times when I think that thought is total BS!)

I tend to give off a not-interested vibe a lot. I don't mean to and usually I'm feeling the total opposite - I just know that I'm scared of rejection and I don't tend to think that anyone WOULD be interested in me, so I'd rather just meet people as friends. And I'll seem so confident and happy about things that no one would think that I wanted more from life.

I don't think that any of the above posters think that it's easy to love yourself. I think that they understand where you're coming from and are further along in their journies. The way that you speak about yourself in this thread makes it sound like you're feeling defeated and/or have given up: both which signal that you're not really loving yourself. It's the sense that I got from your posts anyway!

It really is all about just not having much luck and not meeting the right people that would click with us. I don't think it actually has anything at all to do with who you are.

And that man isn't a very wonderful man if he bailed while you were gone for a month. If anything, it sounds like he saved you a lot more heartache later cause if he's that fickle then he's probably likely to cheat