Wow, that does sound upsetting that she didn't read what you sent. It seems, though, that you are reacting in a passive-aggressive way - instead of being direct with what you need, you're acting out without making it clear as to why you're upset/angry. I'd imagine that being assertive and honest with what's bothering you would go a long way.

My T is very explicit about wanting me to be direct with my needs, so he won't react, offer, etc. as it encourages me to be proactive in getting my needs met.