I used the same trick your mother did to leave my abusive husband. I satyed angry which is hard for me to do, I am also very empathetic and want to believe the best of everyone. But I focused on all the things he had done to me and I focused on getting my freedom back and my happiness, basically getting my life back. Actually I became down right discusted with him.

It is best if you do leave to cut ALL communication with him and not let him know where you are. It keeps you safe and keeps you from being drawn back into him with all his big promises to change. It's typical for the abuser to act out the honey moon phase when you try to leave them. They become the sweetest, nicest person but it doesn't last long and the abuse usually escalates each time. I swear they look for people who have have a lot of empathy and kindness because they can play on that every time. Cutting all contact is really the best and easiest way to move forward. You have to remember that this person is an abuser and not your friend. They are not on your side, and do not have your best interests in mind.

I am so glad to hear that you do have somewhere to go. It might be uncomfortable but not as uncomfortable as you feel now with him. One step closer to being at peace.

Better to get away now while you sound like you still have some self esteem intact and strength. Cause that can wear down so much making it even harder. And before you end up married somehow or with a baby. You sound pretty aware, I have faith that you can do this. It's never easy but it's worth every effort.

You can have a nice place again one day if that's what you want. I never had much growing up either, when I was married we did ok but struggled still because all our money went to his addictions, some of which I did not even know about. But now I have a lovely home for my three kids and I and we have a pretty good life. It took a while but I did it and I did it on my own, which feels pretty good . I would have never had anything if I stayed with him. So I know that you can have what you want. You have better odds of acheiving you dreams with out him because he will always pull you down.

One day after you heal from this whole ordeal, you might meet a wonderful man who will cherish you and love you the way you deserve to be. The man you are with never will.

It's never too late to walk out. You don't owe him anything not even an explanation.