No need to apologize about length -- not that I can really speak for anyone but myself, I'm both new here and pretty verbose.

I wanted to comment and see if it helps. First of all, it takes a while to get comfortable with therapy, at first I was a bundle of nerves. I have been in therapy for years on and off, did some in 1987-1990 with 3 different ones. Two women one man. I lasted all of a session with the man, he was weird and creeped me out. I quit for a long while, then in 1999 went back, and have been with that same therapist for years now, out of that 14 year period, I have done about 10 years with her. So, take away one, you won't always click with a therapist. Some are obviously better than others. Some may have personality clashes with you. You have both a right and a responsibility to yourself to find a therapist who feels right to you.

That being said, it takes a while. I would say at least 6-8-10 sessions to know for sure if you are comfortable or not with the person. If not, I would say move on graciously after explaining why, and say "no hard feelings." A good therapist will accept this and perhaps even help you find someone else so there is no gap in treatment.

It is hard, it can be very painful at times. Nothing good comes without hard work, so keep that in mind. The gain is worth the pain.

Generally, you "get to work" pretty fast. If you want to slow it down, just tell the therapist. One reason they start getting down to business fast is because of the finances of it, insurance plans if they pay for it at all sometimes limit to a certain number of sessions or a certain amount they will pay, IIRC. Usually, one or two sessions to "get the back story" then it's off to the races.

I have been using certain CBT techniques. I was dubious at first, but it does help me a lot. For me, it boils down to one simple goal, rewriting the tape that goes through my mind from "worthless scum of the earth" to "a pretty great guy if the truth be known". The methods are pretty simple, too, diversion/distraction from negative thoughts and reinforcement of positive thoughts. I like it.

If the T does something you don't like or aren't comfortable, you should tell him or her. The therapist-client relationship only works with honesty, and they are trained, and should be able to, set aside their own feelings to work according to the guidelines and ethics of their profession.

Best of luck, you should find good advice and support here.