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Old Aug 22, 2013, 04:26 PM
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I have a T who I have been seeing for ages (on and off) and is a great fit for me. We have emailed throughout my working with her. I speak very openly in these emails, saying things I have trouble saying in person...I considered those communications very private, akin to a journal. I use it to get things out and learn more about myself.

My partner does not like the fact that I'm in therapy (she has at various times accused me of being in love with my T...ironic since that has never been the kind of feelings I have toward my T). I've introduced her, we've done couples sessions with her, nothing has really helped. Now the worst has happened. She went on my computer and read through some of my emails with my T. She was enraged that I was having an emotional connection with someone who wasn't her.

I can't begin to describe how violated I feel. How can our relationship ever feel even again when she has had access to my private thoughts/things I feel vulnerable about/things I haven't even fully figured out yet? She's not particularly sorry -- she feels justified that she's "caught me". Assuming I want to, how do I ever get past this? Should I?

Is it wrong to have strong emotional connections with a T? Is that unfair to your spouse? Can your spouse really fulfill every emotional need you have?

Making matters worse, I don't feel like I can process this in therapy for obvious reasons, so feeling quite lost here. Any ideas would be great. (Yes, I have since upped my password protection to prevent future violations.)
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