I am an INFJ as well. I always see things in mine and others perspective. It is hard it seems at times but do not let your 'own' thoughts of what others think hinder the insight to the person you are. As long as you are comfortable being you then no one else should matter my friend. And if you are not comfortable with your inner self, then you are at a place now where you are and will loved and accepted. It is a start to learn more about your inner self and then perhaps that will lead to having a steady relationship with a partner who can see and feel your needs and fulfill them. Just remember that what the cat drags in he doesn't always eat. Be picky of who you really want to accept and love you. Think of it at analyzing someone who is an image of yourself. They will be the ones you will have no doubt about their love for you.

Hugs and smiles to you.