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It's very hard to help her when she seems to hesitant to do anything about it. She's seeing her psychiatrist tomorrow and I begged her to talk to him about it, but she refused. I am worried it will escalate because there have been no consequences the first time. He is 60 years old and I am perplexed as to why in over thirty years of marriage there has not been a physical incident until now. Do men often become violent as they age? As my mum is very protective of me, it's a fine line between expressing my concern for her and encouraging her to seek help, and having her hide anything that happens in the future for fear of worrying me (she already said she shouldn't have told me because she didn't want me to be upset). It makes me feel so sick inside that this has happened to my mum and I wish there was something more I could do. I'm seriously considering ringing up their psychiatrist and telling him myself, but I think mum would view that as a betrayal and at the moment I want to do things that make her comfortable in confiding in me. When a family member has been abused is it best to let them to decide for themselves what they want to do, or take a more interventionist approach and do things against their will that ultimately may help? As an adult who feels responsible for her wellbeing it is very hard to know how to handle this situation as she wants to go on as though nothing happened but for me it's very hard to do this especially as I fear it will happen again.
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