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Originally Posted by allme
Hi all, will try and make this quick. The last few days have been so good with mu hubby, he has been there for me and so understanding and we have been so happy. We have arrange to go to a gala in our village with 2 friends and I suggested my brother because he has no friends, only his gf who is working that day. My hubby simply said no he cant come. I asked why as I knew he would love it and he said its because he has tattoos on his neck and would make us look bad. Well I went crazy  I started shouting and screaming right in his face for a good 30 mins.
We had planned stuff to do today because I have not been out of the house for nearly a month and told him last night I didn't want to go out today and to basically shove it. So I wake up today to find he has gone to play golf and left me in all by myself for the day knowing it would drive me crazy. I may have said I didn't want to go but he knows I didn't mean it.
So here I AM SITTING HERE LIVID. I am in ultra crazy mad mode and want to harm myself or just cut my arm or something to teach him or a lesson. I have even nearly asked my old T (who I kissed - long story) to be friend again on face book. Which is mad. I am mad. It may sound stupid to you all but believe me my hubby is being a **** doing this knowing it would have been ok when we both spoke this morning and could have gone out. WHen I called him he said well you're the one that said you didn't want to go but GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR he knows I didn't mean it.
Please help me I need to calm down I am thinking of doing really stupid stuff to pay him a lesson. I am in crazy mode. I feel like cancelling his car insurance and throwing out his clothes or doing something to get back at him. Pls help me stop and chill out  |
I know you are right that he knows better that you didn't mean it but I won't side with either you or him on the fact that he went. To his credit, sometimes people like us need to be "called" on our behaviors like this. We act out for a reason and say/do things we dont' mean, sometimes, god forbid even to actually 'test' the other person or get a reaction. I only say this because frankly I know I have done it, so I'm not judging you. But truth be told it may be good for you that he is willing to call you on these things at times. It pisses you off just the same I know but when you get a chance to step back think about this. I hate being called on my bad behavior but I always know that its good for me in the end.
I hope you can calm down and see this.
On the tattoo thing, I'll be honest, that made him look like an *** if you ask me. I know he's probably not an all around jerk, I know you care for him but that is a ******, judgemental and discriminating thing to say. he's your brother for goodness sakes! I personally stand behind you in your outrage. I mean to shun someone not only because tattoos are commonplace today but because they might make you look bad? God. That was very egotistical and I hope you keep standing up for your brother. I would.