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Originally Posted by allme
Ok I will try thank you. It's trued I guess I shouldn't of said that...even if angry  I just say the most stupid stuff when I am angry. I even insulted his family so no wonder he is p***** off with me I don't mean it though it just comes out of me before I realise I am even saying it. I need to learn to walk away but I can't walk away ah the anhger becomes more intense I have to say something or I feel like I will explode or something. It is so very intense. On a good day, I am a lovely person and I believe that is who I am but on an angry day I am HORRID. And I hate this side of me. I still don't know how to cope with my anger.  |
That's part of BPD. And learning to regulate those stong emotions is not easy. There is a DBT Workbook available on Amazon that has helped me a lot with this, even in the absence of a T trained in the technique. If you are not familiar with DBT you can read more about it on this site. One of the hardest things that I had to learn was that I needed to change my behaviors, not expect people to accept them because "that's just how I am". Lots and Lots of hugs coming your way from across the pond.