Planejane, I am so very sorry you are having to go threw this. I to have been in a difficult situation w/ my H. I have 3 kids and am married to my H he was mentally and emotionally abusive and very controlling. We are now in T and it has helped so much. It took a sheer act of God to put everything in place. I do understand how hard it is to leave.

My H sounds much like your BF. I worked in a day care so there would be very limited contact with males. My H was jealous of every man he saw. I also worked for a house keeping service. I worked w/ other females and no one was home when we cleaned. Not the most glamorous of jobs but it did keep money coming in. It is important that you have a job. You need money t secure your future. I know I am one to talk. I have not worked in 15 years. Right now I save quarters. I keep them in a M&M candy container. That way it is not suspected. I also have a cup w/ a lid on it and every time I get a dollar to spare I put it in that cup. I had enough to open a checking account that way. Just something to think about. I am 39 years old, I have just gotten my first credit card and my first checking account just a year ago. Get a PO box so he cannot track you, and so he doesn't get mail that is yours. It took a very talented T to make all this happen and a very serious series of events.

Honey if you are not married to this man, make sure you do not get married to him and do not get pregnant. Make a plan to get away, when he is gone run. Leave no tracks. Get what you can in your name, your car, the house, any belongs you may share. My car is not in my name, my H wouldn't put it in my name. Neither is our house. It makes a difference. Check to see when leases are up on things.( car, apartment) I have a spare bag packed and have left it at families house. My family has no idea though. When I did laundry at there house when our washer was broke, I stashed an outfit there. I also keep a packed bag in the trunk of my car.

Do you have a cell phone? My H recently got me a cell phone, upon request of my T. We live in the country. Everything is 20 mils or more away. I got a phone in case he ever tried to hurt me and I needed to escape quickly or he followed me after escaping.

I think my situation is different then yours because my H was not drinking. If there is a way to escape him please do.

good luck hun, keep us posted.