My opinion is very much the same. I do not think that BPD is curable, but you can learn to cope, live with it, not suffer as many traits, and and live a happier life. I think much of BPD for many of us is based on circumstances. Like Luvmydog said, it was better until life events got in the way.

As for me, I had significant BPD as a teen and in to my 20's. I didn't know what I had, thought I was "normal" through the entire thing. Whenever I brought up that I thought something was wrong I was told otherwise. So I attempted to act "normal" and I never talked about it.

As time progressed, I got married, life settled down, and so did the traits. Never perfect. I was suicidal when I had issues at work for a while, I disassociated when I faced a class of horrible kids, and fell apart after my dad died and my mom disowned me. I didn't get any help throughout any of it. I'd be a mess for a while and would then get where I could cope again. Most people were none the wiser to most of it. I also had no friends. I pushed away any one who attempted to get close for a very, very long time. So I had no friends but I could cope moderately well.

Then, about a year and a half ago, I made a friend. I felt I needed to...very long story. In an extremely short amount of time, everything came back. It started with flashbacks of how I was as a teen and how I'd been abused/neglected at home when I was young and within literally a day or two it had all returned, and due to circumstances, it hasn't gotten much better. I have more good days than I did a year ago, but with my work and current circumstances, it's been very very hard to get "stable". I'm hoping once I have a job away from home my life will be looking up. I know not everything will go away. I'll always be subject to this stuff, but it should go a long way in making it something I can cope with better.