Yes. She's in therapy. And yes I've been talking to my therapist about it...it's frustrating bc I have so many other things I need to use my therapy time for, but right now this as well. She thinks this situation is not good for me. She reminded me of the fact that my primary responsibility is to my boys. And she even said if my friend ends up in a shelter for a while it will be ok. And to remember that her reactions to it are not my responsibility. She's an adult (29 years old) and I am not her mother nor do I want to be.
At the same time I don't want to be mean or cruel.