I'm learning to avoid those scenarios where work worsens my symptoms unneccessarily to avoid causing myself huge meltdowns. So it's not that I can't work, I just actively refuse to work in an environment that will ultimately cause me harm...
Before I didn't realize this and worked myself into a frenzy and then quit for seemingly stoopid reasons. I'm trying a more pre-emptive approach these days...

Basically my boss redefined my position due to strucural changes. She proposed me taking over a percentage of my managers duties, adding 2 more managers to assist with the same amount of duties each, plus the work I already do, without upping my salary.

I could have ultimately handled the stress but an insane workload for peanuts would have caused a bipolar episode of epic proportions a few months down the line. Work would have been none the wiser while I suffer with being triggered and put my daughter through witnessing yet another huge episode. One that could've been avoided at that.

Not something I'm willing to do. I was frank with her, told her " If I knew you were advertising a "run things" job I would've asked for "run things" salary, but you advertised an assistant position. You're paying me the same amount of money my brother gets to explain phone specs and you want to add atleast twice the workload for the same pay? Thanks but no thanks, I'll end up being a miserable b!tch on steroids and leave a sour taste in both our mouths, and I really don't want to do that."

They had a longa.s.s managers meeting and decided they couldnt afford to increase my pay, so I said good bye to everyone and left...