Wow! It's amazing what you have accomplished--developed a relationship with your father, kept your mother at bay, and dealt with an issue in your relationship with your boyfriend in a satisfactory manner for yourself. You should be so proud! You are showing the wisdom of your years of experience and seem very well grounded in what you are doing. Hope your relationship with the bf comes out as you wish it would. Keep us posted--we can always use a good "success story" to inspire us to be brave & strong for ourselves.