Melody - how about if instead of apologizing, you tell her
E X A C T L Y T H I S

I was aware that my thinking was wrong, but I wanted to share anyway. In response, T went on about how I was too literal, too black or white, and went off on a tangent [...] I was hoping she could hear the feelings behind my words, and allow me to explain why I felt that way, instead of immediately correcting me. I felt myself getting sensitive and shut down. I didn't feel understood or heard.

SO SO SO important.