I totally feel where you come from InfiniteSadness. I've always thought I wanted a relationship, but now that I'm 31 and have had less than no intimacy with a woman, I'm starting to change my mind. I agree with previous posters that women are more than sex objects, but I need it almost as much as breathing or eating (apparently it is now a prerequisite for love). Believe me I know the feeling of "what do I have to do?" It's painful to see some guys just show up and have women flock into bed with them while good honest guys (and I'm sure it happens with women also) get the business end of the deal.