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Originally Posted by LolaCabanna
Scorpios brought up a good point. If it were the end of your session and T says, "ding" times up , in the middle of a thought , then how would you feel? What if you were the client who was getting the 3 minutes? Chances are it will happen as therapy is a strange beast and the ability to "wrap things up" on the hour sometimes is not possible. It doesn't mean that your T cares for that patient more or you less, it means your T is being responsible and wrapping it up for the previous patient before she sends them on their way. Now if it were 10 minutes back to back , then I would say she needs to judge her time and clients better, but 3 minutes? I realize this has triggered some of your own stuff regarding being cared for and things, and it appears you have owned that. Just try to be aware that you are not the only client and if she affords others time to "wrap it up" at the end, then she will probably do the same for you when the time comes. In other words cutting into your time, wasn't about you.  |
Hey, Lola
Trust me, I have said the same thing to myself over and over. I said to myself " who knows what the other client is going through...maybe they are in crisis..(although they do not look it at all)..I always look at the situation from another point of view..probably to a fault. But this is about me. In my original post I said it is not about the 3 minutes..it is about how those three minutes made me feel, right or wrong. Actually, there is no right or wrong...it just is.
I totally get that she sees other clients..but the fact remains that it is triggering when she keeps a client over into my time. THAT is the work. I still get a bad feeling in the pit of my stomach when I think about it. And to be really honest..I actually thought that she did it intentionally to get me riled up. ( This has happened before). I thought that maybe she was trying to get me so P.O.ed so that I would just let it all out....it worked!! Maybe not in session because I need to process stuff. Rationally speaking, she probably didn't do that on purpose...but in a really weird way I am glad that it happened because it is getting these emotions that have been suppressed to come out.
Thanks again for your post!
