I am 21 years old. I am a virgin. I was in a relationship in the past and had no issues getting hard, but my girlfriend at the time was also a virgin and didn't want to have sex. I have no problems talking, flirting with and kissing women.

I had an experience with a woman where I was quite nervous as she was much more experienced than me. I was unable to get an erection, every time I started to, my mind would immediately start thinking about that rather than about her and I would lose it. I went and researched and realized it was sexual performance anxiety, much to my own relief. I looked at what I could do to stop it next time, and most agreed that being in the moment and focusing on the girl is the best solution.

Recently I met a girl who I have come to care about quite a lot although I have only known her for a few weeks. A few days ago we were making out in her bed, I had no problem getting hard. As soon as clothes started coming off I started focusing on trying to get an erection, and boom, same problem. It's like at the back of my mind I am no longer focusing on her although I'm still going through all the physical motions. As soon as I stop thinking about it, i start to get one and then my mind is back on it as soon as it starts and I lose it. I really tried to focus on her and think about all the things that I like about her, how sexy she is, etc. No dice.

It's not that I'm worried about performing, it's that I'm worried about getting an erection. After I went home and thought about her I had absolutely NO problem getting hard....

Any advice would be appreciated

Thanks