
Aug 24, 2013, 12:48 PM
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Member Since: Aug 2013
Location: The North.
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Originally Posted by AnnaBegins
He doesn't do anything. And by that I really mean nothing, nada, zip, zilch. He doesn't offer me a tissue, doesn't move closer, doesn't take my hand, offer a hug...nothing. If, despite my best efforts, a few tears leak out and/or my voice breaks, he might stop talking as if he's giving me a few moments to pull myself together but that's it.
He's actually reinforcing my beliefs that crying in front of people is bad, although I don't think that's his intent. When he does nothing, it makes me feel like he is disgusted with me, that all he wants is this useless fat lump of **** to get out of his office and never come back. I understand that he needs to establish boundaries and that the last thing either of us want is transference, but...I just wish that he cared about me enough as a person - not a family member, not a close friend, not anyone he thinks about in a romantic way but simply as a person he has gotten to know and does not want to see in this much pain - to offer some sort of comfort and/or support.
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Sorry he makes you feel that way. Doesn't sound great. I would be upset as well if my therapist didn't do or say anything if I cried or panicked or something (it hasn't happened yet so I don't know how he reacts). Is he a good therapist apart from that? Do you think you'll be able to talk to him about this in the future? Also, what exactly is transference? I'm new to this.
Last edited by neutrino; Aug 24, 2013 at 12:51 PM.
Reason: Added a sentence.
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