I grabbed some help from wiki since they have a better definition than I can express:

"In a therapy context, transference refers to redirection of a patient's feelings for a significant person to the therapist. Transference is often manifested as an erotic attraction towards a therapist, but can be seen in many other forms such as rage, hatred, mistrust, parentification, extreme dependence, or even placing the therapist in a god-like or guru status."

The way I would define it, transference to me would be me falling in love with my T or expecting him to take the place of my father. Neither scenario would be good for either of us.

I'm trying to write him a letter today expressing all of this but I'm not sure when I'll be seeing him again. I had to cancel my upcoming session with him because I can't take any more time off work right now and the next week is one I usually skip because my responsibilities at work require me to work a tremendous amount of overtime once a month. Even if/when I do see him again, I dunno if I'll have the courage to give him the letter. I'm too afraid he'll laugh at me or tell me I'm being silly or have no reaction at all other than thanking me for being honest. I also feel like asking my T to care about me as a person is pathetic...what kind of horrible being has to ask for something like that?