Very good question mj. I am glad you posted this. I don't really have an answer for you

as my stuff isn't all that different

but I think you'll get some good replies. I hope they help. You deserve to feel good and have special friends in your life! I think our parents suck

The truth is, these are old tapes ... about being worthless and undeserving. They need to be thrown down the ***insert icon***
Easier said than done.
My stepmother said "you should be punished all your life". When I am in bad place, I sometimes believe her

But, frankly, it is $&*%^
You deserve good things ...
((((((((((((((((((((mj))))))))))))))))))))
Love,
Fuzzy