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Originally Posted by poptart316
Things would probably end at some point even if we were in a relationship.. I don't see how this is any different? I guess he is "using" me and it kind of hurts.. but I guess it just goes to show there wasn't much of a foundation to begin with, nothing else was there other than affection and sex.. we barely spoke to each other. I really don't think I'm capable of "connecting" with another human being. I'm so lonely though and really want the affection/sex.. I have nothing else to look forward to. I guess I'm prone to using sex as an escape like some people use drugs or alcohol and I don't know if I can stop myself. I don't understand why everyone uses me though.. all that anyone ever wants from me is sex. I'm reminded of this message this girl sent to me on OkCupid "you are what men call a "head case" and all their ever going to want is sex from you" I thought about that periodically when Chris and I were together and thought she was wrong, but now I'm thinking that she's probably right.
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Guys did this to me at one point in my life as well. It's because I
let them. I understand that you want that emotional connection and that sleeping with someone gives you that for a minute, but then you just feel bad in the long run. I always did. It just stopped being worth it to me, because it made me more depressed. I figured out what I really wanted was someone to care for me, and the guys really didn't. Anyway. Really, anyone could be used by anyone. The only reason guys are using you for sex--and this can be turned around--is because they see you as someone who is looking for that connection that you mentioned and will try to get it no matter what. And some, not all, but some guys will prey on women who are emotionally needy--especially men who are your age (though they can be any age, really). It's like they can sniff it out. I know it's really, really hard because I've
totally been there, but you've got to stop leaning on these guys for your emotional support. Guys really aren't the people whom you can bear all to. I mean, the stuff you say on here really isn't stuff you should necessarily say to someone you'd want to date, you know? Learn who the people
are that you can bear all to and stick with those people when you need to vent or fall apart. I hope that makes sense. I get it...really, I do.
Don't spiral down, girl.