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Originally Posted by content30
I just wanted to speak to this, only because it is personal to me. I never leave therapy/left therapy in tears, always dressed well, had makeup on, etc., but I was extremely suicidal, had an attempt I almost didn't survive (was in ICU for several days), etc. I just say this because I want everyone to know that just because someone has a great facade doesn't mean that they are ok internally. You really never know. Ok...end soap box.
My T has started sessions late (12 min late last session...girl had obviously been crying hysterically before me), and my T has kept me 15 min. late before. To me, it's all a wash, as I know she is sensitive to clients' needs. I think it is good that you recognize that this is something that is triggering you emotionally. It's also good to reason with yourself that a few minutes is fine, so long as your T gives you your full time. I also think it is good that you told T how you felt. I do think that you could have said this in a better way than swearing at T, but that is my opinion. I hope that you can work through this with your T.
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Hi,Content
You made a valid point;I had no way of knowing what was going on with this client...something to consider. I'm relatively new at therapy and the deep work seems to just be beginning. As far as using profanity...it was an email. I told my T it felt like she was fu***** with me. No, it certainly is not the most diplomatic way to get my point across and I have never done that before but I was very upset. My T will throw in an f-bomb in here and there herself, although never directed at me. When we are upset we all deal in our own way...and in therapy I don't think there are too many rules about proper etiquette when choosing words. I think that we will work through this rupture...no matter what, she is a good T.