It's been a really long process for me. I knew I needed to seek help for about 10 years before I actually gathered enough courage to do so. It was voluntary. I was really unlucky though because my referrals got lost twice, people sent me back and forth between different places and I had to wait for half a year after I first sought help until I finally got some help (and I had to wait even longer to get to see a therapist). It's been tough.

Good luck with everything! I hope everything works out for you.