My cbt therapist and I are still fairly new to each other but I think we have great rapport so far.

What I am wondering, for those with an opposite sex T, how do you know if T would be comfortable with an intimate topic? I am used to talking to male T's but I'm not sure if this guy is used to women speaking openly about sexuality, health, CSA, CA, etc. etc.

I know that T's need to be professional and be ready to talk about anything, but sometimes I wonder. CBT guy seemed taken aback by some topics recently (all facial expressions and body language--verbally he tried to stay cool )

Even my longtime T, back in my youth, seemed reflective and bemused that we were even discussing my "cycle"...he said "My daughter and I never even talk about this." not in a bad way. He was just reflecting on how he never had this conversation with anyone, patient or otherwise before.

So I worry --on Monday I have another phobia I haven't told cbt guy about, mainly because I'm not sure I want to work on it--but I may need to.

Any thoughts welcome.

ps my main abuser as a child was a female caretaker so I have almost always had male T's