It's just an opinion but...from your posts, it seems to me like you have done as much as you can to support her, to the point of breaking down yourself, and yes, she has her own issues, but you do too! She hasn't kept to her payment agreements, and goes to your private sessions with your T. and she's the one who gets angry for all that? I'm not saying she's out of line right now, but she will be if this keeps up.

c'mon, don't feel bad. you've been very kind!! I'm surprised you're not telling her to move out sooner. Sorry for the harshness..but you DO NEED to take care of yourself after all. ALONG with your two boys! THAT's a LOT to handle!! do know that! As for your friend, she'll survive. It's been hard, but you've been supporting her so she's bound to have been better at some level right?? You're right, you are NOT her mom!