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Originally Posted by mixedup_emotions
((( Growlithing )))
I, too, have struggled with learned helplessness - and still do, to a certain degree. It's quite eye-opening when we're able to become aware of it and see how much damage was caused. Unlearning old behaviors and learning new behaviors are scary. - but it's also empowering.
One thing that I did to help empower me is to make a list of things that I didn't know how to do...and then I would choose one to tackle. The feeling you get from taking control of your own life can be amazing (and scary, strangely enough).
Unfortunately, many (including myself) tend to fall back into the trap of re-running old tapes that tell us that we can't do it, or we convince ourselves that there's just no way. Challenging those thoughts are - well - challenging!
The first step is becoming self-aware....what you do with it is the next.
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I can try making a list. That kinda aligns well with the way I confront the problems in my life that I'm not afraid to confront. The problem is that I feel if I were to make a list where the things on it are so simple and basic that most 12 years can do it or so scary and foreign such as balancing a check book or even trying to figure what the hell that even means, I feel like I'd end up sitting in the bathroom, hurting myself as punishment for being so stupid. I don't want to try making a list without help of my T to help handle that reaction.