Thank you for your response. I don't know if he could handle the truth, either...I forgot to add that one of his best friends is a LCSW, sigh, so as soon as he vented to her, she started talking about every which way my T was allegedly in the wrong (knowing zero real facts about it). (I am just glad they didn't ever know his name; plus he's a PhD...but I don't trust they would have left it alone...and then I think I would have lost it had she/they tried to pursue something further.)

But she totally egged him on by supporting his view without knowing all the facts. I realize people do this all the time when they have a good friend and don't know the other person much (I mean, I had met her several times)...but her degree/position set him up so he was sure his position and side of the story WAS correct. Plus if you or anyone else knows much about narcissism, this situation/story he decided was true was a total narcissistic injury for him, which is obvious as I am hearing his version is being retold 3 years later. Although now supposedly he doesn't sound angry, just hurt. But it is still the attention seeking behavior that he needs. I don't know if he realizes the story he has been telling isn't true or he has convinced himself it was/is in order to give himself a reason to feel so hurt?

I do know he can't suck me in again, for once...I have been in alot of therapy (with 2 Ts for awhile, and currently) and I have moved past him, over and onward...even if its to be alone for awhile. There was way too much narcissism in my family and I ended up doing exactly what Freud would have expected of me ...finding that in a partner.

I AM still wary of him regardless, because I do know he can still be manipulative...thanks for your thoughts, Hankster.