Quote:
Originally Posted by Jen-jen
My Dad finally woke up. He overdosed on painkillers and is now going through the DT's. I can't help wondering if maybe he was starting to stabilize from his manic episode and realizing what he had done, took too many pills on purpose. He has done things that are life-changing and relationship ending.
My questions now would be
1) When he gets off of the high, will he realize what he has done and know that it was wrong?
2) When is the time to discuss all of this? It cant just be ignored.
3) Do we take control of his finances etc. for good or just until he back to "normal"?
4) Am I proactive and call the various casinos and talk to them?
Thank you all so much for your insight.
|
Here is my advice. Keep in mind that I am nobody except someone who wants to help. Feel free to ignore it.
1. I was on the same kind of high. When I stabilized, I was crushed by what I had done and went into a year-long depression. I think your Dad will realize what a mistake he made when he stabilizes. What he does with that is a complete unknown.
2. Wait until he is completely stabilized. Make sure you aren't entering the conversation vindictively. Make sure he understands that you just want to help and that you still love him.
3. I think he would take that badly. Maybe you could gently suggest that he let your Mom take care of things until he feels better. I put my wife on a monthly stipend. Even at my worst, I never even considered touching that. You might want to try that.
4. Casinos can only do so much. If they don't know him, the only time they can toss him out would be if he tried to borrow money from the house. Have you thought of something like gamblers anonymous?
Again, take this for what it's worth. You'll get better answers from his therapist or psychiatrist.