I don't think Lola was trying to attack anyone here! I have refrained from posting on this thread for a long time because I have been feeling the same as Lola and probably many others. The thread is not at all about how a clients suicide would affect their t granted it started that way but slowly changed into something else.
I am struggling to find any supportive words as any advice or help is met with excuses. What people are trying to tell you op is that we all have choices in life and we shouldn't let anyone have a hold over us as long as we are old enough to do something about it. I feel people are spoon feeding you now and that doesn't help you become empowered or want to change.
There are people on here going through some terrible times who struggle with Sui ideation daily, they reach out for help and post a thread and maybe get one reply. This breaks my heart. I am not saying don't post or downplaying your situation but I just don't understand the logic.