holdingonhope, wow, you have a lot going on with your hubby. It sounds like he really needs personal therapy. I'm not sure if counseling is an option for you or not but I also think couples counseling would help you guys out a lot. I hope he is careful and does not drink on his anti-anxiety meds because that could cause another disaster. It sounds like you are really supportive of him even though he is verbally and emotionally abusive towards you. Remember, you have to take care of yourself. I don't know if standing up to him would help but it seems like the only option. Of course if he does not get help with his issues it may not change things. I wish you the best....D.