What she was really trying to say is "ouch that hurt me, I'm angry with you for not putting up with my b/s" but she just doesn't know how to say that in a kind way. Sounds like there was a communication gap, next time you find yourself in a situation like this just be up front with the person in question and assert how what they are doing makes you feel. If they really want to keep you as a friend they will understand and try to change their ways. If they are insecure they will just get angry and call you names, but that doesn't mean they didn't hear your message loud and clear.