a person can only give so much before they have nothing left to give. I agree with the al a non idea. they can help you can have age appropriate discussions with your kids about what is going on. I do that with mine so that they know the illness has nothing to do with them. They also know that other kids have issues at home too. I am so sorry you are facing all these harsh situations. I made it through after losing everything. I don't wish it on anyone. hugs