Yeah, sorry to jump on the bandwagon holdingon...... but K's just plain and simply an irresponsible a-hole. I know that you love him and that you are staying with him, but all said and done he NEEDS to change. Maybe jail again would be good for him - it should at least sober his sorry butt up.

I concur with everyone suggesting that you get your kids into therapy. I don't know why it never occured to say it before. but they should be covered by your job, even if K isn't fully yet. They need therapy because they ARE being abused by him. He might not be intending to abuse them, but he is. Every single action of his IS abusive towards you and the kids - you might be right now keeping yourself afloat because you understand a bit more about where he's coming from.... but your kids cannot be expected to understand it.

And he can bloody well go to AA meetings or SOMETHING like that even before you get him onto medication. There is NO REASON for him to continue being such a douchebag... which is his choice, btw. He's choosing that, by choosing to drink.

And trust me... I'm sure a looooot of us on this board understand self-medicating and how ugly it can be.