He is abusive, Plain and simple. You can NOT change him into the husband you think he can be .. caring loving and a father to the kids. He is choosing to live his life the way he decides. You have no legal reason to allow this and your damn sure deserve better .. better for you and kids.

Enabling him is what it has come down to.

You and your children deserve much better. He will not change unless HE decides to. You love him .. Yes ,but that does not excuse his treatment of you and the kids.

I would have him removed from the home. He can either go to rehab or he can continue down this hellish road with out you bailing him out.

Not everyone can be saved by having someone love them.