She probably had post partum which caused her to be removed from being able to understand your emotional state... speaking from personal experience. You abandoned her and your marriage when you strayed - for whatever reason, that is what happened.

Because my husband is in a very similar situation as you... as he is now forming a close emotional relationship with a girl he works with as we have been and are going through some hardship in our marriage - I am wondering, what could your wife have done to prevent this from happening? Because of your story... I am afraid my situation may end up this way.

Hamster knows my recent posts... great advice and insight, as always.