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Originally Posted by knowthyself9
I can't begin to describe how violated I feel. How can our relationship ever feel even again when she has had access to my private thoughts/things I feel vulnerable about/things I haven't even fully figured out yet? She's not particularly sorry -- she feels justified that she's "caught me". Assuming I want to, how do I ever get past this? Should I?
Is it wrong to have strong emotional connections with a T? Is that unfair to your spouse? Can your spouse really fulfill every emotional need you have?
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I think this is a perfect example of where technology can either hinder or help the theraputic relationship, and in this case, its the former. You have to be very careful with technology because you never know who might read it. I think you have a right to feel violated. How did she get into your email tho? Did you leave it open? Does she know the password?
As with any relationship, I think the best thing to do is talk about it with your partner. Tell her how you feel and what you would have liked to happen differently. I advise you though, to use "I" statements, so she doesn't feel like you are accusing her. That might help make things so that you can have a rational conversation.
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