Hi Todd,

I have been married for 7 years to my husband who is ADD. We dated for 5 years before we actually got married. I will give you a girls side of things. I feel my husband is emotionally not available for me because of his ADD. It seems that when I need him the most he can't seem to give me the support I need. It ranges from when I have been hospitalized, to having to resign from my 15 year job, not passing my nursing boards the first time around. These were times in my life that I really needed his support and he just didn't have it in him to give it to me. He is used to me being the tough one in charge of everything and when I am not he is not able to cope, so he gets involved in other things because he just doesn't know what to do as much as I explain to him that I need him. Mind you I am not at all a clingy female, I am tough and independant, but once in a while you crumble you know?
I am now getting very frustrated because I am the one who has to deal with everything from the financial aspect of things to the cleaning of the house (he is very messy because of his add).
Now on the bright side of things, we also have a great relationship in the sense that we respect each other, we do not scream at each other, we don't swear, he makes me pee my pants from laughing at his crazyness, and he thinks I am the smartest woman he has ever met. W

Recently because we have relocated to another state, (he was transferred from his job) I have been having a hard time, I am not working as of yet and have been needing emotional support that he just can't give me. It has started me thinking that it will probably allways be like this and I don't really want to continue in a relationship where I don't have emotional support.
So I guess what I am saying is try to pay enough attention to your girlfriend so that you know she needs you emotionally. All of the times I mentioned above where I needed emotional support are things that normally people would realize you need support, but for an ADD person it could be difficult to recognize.

I hope this was helpful and not discouraging.

Good luck