Dear Stalked. I want you to know you are not alone. It seems you are involved with a 'spot litigator' the nastiest creature on earth. We get many of these types at our Narcissistic Personality disorder forum and our Psychopath forum at MSn.

We have compiled quite a bit of information and link about this terrible situation.

We even have a support forum just for parents involved with these types. I hope you find it helpful and validating.

http://nz.msnusers.com/NARCISSISTICP...cecustody.msnw

There is even a book written by a lawyer/social worker, Mr. William Eddy about this topic:

Here is an excerpt:

I use the analogy that you can’t bounce a ball off sand. The more they try to get your attention by bouncing the ball, if you’re sand, they have to keep bending over to pick up the ball. They basically run out of energy. Then they move over to the pavement (which is somebody else) and start bouncing the ball off of them. The more you don’t have any contact and become the sandbox, the better. You have to have some contact regarding your child’s welfare and medical issues etc. But it’s important to be as brief as possible, One or two sentences at most, preferably by email.
SPLITTING – Protecting Yourself While Divorcing a Borderline or Narcissist
by William A. Eddy, Attorney, Mediator and Clinical Social Worker
http://www.bpdcentral.com/bks/spy.shtml

I believe you will need your lawyer to ensure that the courts act on the threats. Has anyone mentioned supervised visitations? You may want to consider this if it becomes necessary. It seems the courts only want to have a 'loving and caring relationship' between children and parents, even if the abusive parent has AsPD. therefore, supervised visitations, preferably at the abuser's expense might be the best outcome. I wish things were different. We encounter many horror stories of mothers in such situation. You're not alone. Child therapists, guardians ad litem must be brought into the situation. These people have the clout in the courts regarding visitation recommendation. It's a long, nasty, journey.

You seem so remarkably able to cope with this nightmare.

Do take care
femfree