This is an anonymous forum for people with mental health issues. My gender and orientation has been questioned too because of the avatars I use and the posts I post. My current avatar is of two men kissing. Does that make me a gay male? No. People refer me as he or she, I gladly inform them of my identity.

We don't care what sex you are or are not. Most of us do not understand the concept of "he, she, it" and genderqueer, genderfluid, etc. It's one thing to be in person and asking what you preferred to be called, but when you're anonymous, nobody is going to know that you're not a sex or are multiple sexes or a cat or a moose. How are we supposed to know?

None of us here are making fun of you. This is a support group. None of us are attacking you, you were upset to begin with and are only aggravating yourself when nobody understands what it's like to be in your situation.

It's hard enough to be gay. To be no sex or more than one sex, it's a bit mind-blowing. I don't understand it, but it doesn't mean I don't think it isn't possible (not sure how many double negatives are in there). You can't expect everyone to know how to respond to that in the way you'd like, and it's not because we're stupid or we're mean, we just don't understand. Instead of thinking everyone here is trying to insult you, clarify first how you'd like us to treat you, because we are supportive here. That's a pretty big expectation to assume an entire group knows who is gay or genderqueer and who needs to be called he or she--because there are lots of members on this form that I have NO idea who is a boy or girl, straight or gay, young or old!