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Originally Posted by Harmacy
Hi BlueInanna
I didn't go into work today as it's a bank holiday here in UK. I've decided to go in tomorrow and try to get through the week then take stock of any setbacks on the weekend.
My friend probably wouldn't have noticed any difference in my behavioiur on Friday as I'm pretty quiet usually anyway so don't think I'll mention it as could make an issue out of something that so far had been contained in my head.
As for splitting, my understanding of it is it's black and white thinking. We sometimes see people as all good and then suddenly and abruptly split to all bad when we sense rejection or they remind us of something bad that happened in the past. I'm trying to learn that everything is grey, that nobody is black or white (all good / all bad), old habits are hard to break though and sometimes the emotions take hold and make such rational thinking difficult in the heat of the moment.
Hope you're feeling better tomorrow.
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It's so hard to do...I mean seeing in shades of grey rather than black or white. If I see one thing I don't like I cast them away until I get my head right. It's like a voice inside my head telling me 'I told you so'. The thing is, I expect ppl to accept me, good and bad, and not judge me but I don't do the same for others.
I am soo one sided. Trying to work on it but it's fricking hard!